Ideas to help when you have issues in a friendship

One of the things people have asked me the most is what to do whenever friendship troubles occur. They happen to all of us, and they are the worst. However, there are a few things you can do to help.

This world tries everyday to bring us down. But it hasn’t ended us yet, and I don’t believe that we should let it. Issues with friends is one of the absolute hardest things to help with, because it will never be perfect. But I’m going to try anyway.

Friendship expectation vs. reality

Friendship isn’t like the books, let me start with that. In stories, there are groups of friends who are always there for each other. Most of the time the characters have known each other since forever and are totally awesome and perfect.

That’s never how real life works. Your friends may be nice, sweet and there for you a lot. That doesn’t mean it’s going to be that way forever. It’s very likely that friendships will end or weaken at one point. So no matter what, people in this world need to just stop trying to be perfect. There are people with high expectations for who you are and for what you should do.

Friendship solutions

Feeling out of place in a friend group isn’t abnormal, and if you feel weird about it, I’m sure you are not the only one. Try talking to the person/people about it. If you are uncomfortable with that, then send an email. I do advise you to try to talk to them about it, but, if you don’t want to, then maybe try floating around. By that I mean try making new friends. Find someone you can connect with.

If the problem really is just applying to you, then maybe your friend(s) will have good advice on what to do from there. I’m sure you have all heard this song, but you know what they say:

Make new friends,
But keep the old.
One is silver,
And the other, gold.
A circle’s round
It has no end
That’s how long
I’m gonna be your friend.

Besides floating around, you can try and make a new friend somewhere other than school (or wherever your friend is). Maybe you have other friends to hang out with, or maybe you just aren’t ready for a new friend. So many possibilities are under the umbrella of friendship.

That’s all for today lovelies, but remember, never settle for a relationship with anyone who treats you as if you are less than, because you all deserve the world and more!

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