5 Spiritual practices for busy Christian moms to grow in faith

Finding ways to connect with God in everyday life can be challenging for anyone. But Christian moms in the thick of raising children can really struggle to do so. 

We are pulled in multiple directions at the same time, our thoughts are often interrupted, our to-do list never ends and quiet time can be nearly nonexistent (especially for moms of littles!).

But finding simple ways to connect with God throughout the day is important not only for our own spiritual life but also for our spiritual leadership for our children. 

I want to demonstrate what a real-life relationship with God looks like to my kids. And I know the more in-tune I am with God, the better mom I am.

The struggle is certainly real, though. Being 16 years into motherhood, I’ve had times where I felt more distant from God in the everyday pressures and busyness of raising children. 

I never got away from Him, but spending time with Him has been difficult during different stages in my life. 

Through all these phases, I’ve learned that connecting with God doesn’t have to come from adding more to your day. It often comes from noticing Him in the moments you’re already living.

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Encouragement for moms of littles

When I had a toddler and baby and was getting almost no sleep at night, my brain could focus only on survival — and even that was iffy some days! 

During that phase of my life, I learned God knew exactly where I was and what my struggles were. Just because I was running low on Bible reading and prayer time, He knew right where I was. I was honoring and serving Him in taking care of the children He blessed me with.

Also during this time I was reminded of God’s grace. He knew my capacity and saw my struggle. I still remember a Sunday morning sermon from this time in my life. Well, I don’t remember the sermon itself. I got distracted by a verse that my pastor read from Isaiah.

He tends his flock like a shepherd:
He gathers the lambs in his arms
and carries them close to his heart;
he gently leads those that have young.

Isaiah 40:11 (NIV)

Our Heavenly Father knows how difficult it is for moms with littles. He gently leads us. 

I realized I didn’t need to feel guilty; I could just rest in Him. 

If you’re in that phase of life right now, know God isn’t angry with you when you don’t have as much time to spend with Him as you once did. Through the years, you will learn new ways to connect with Him — and that’s OK!  

How to connect with God in everyday life

Connecting with God doesn’t always look like sitting down with your Bible for a long stretch of uninterrupted time.

More often, it looks like small moments of awareness throughout your day.

It looks like:

• noticing Him while you’re getting ready in the morning
• talking to Him in the car
• pausing for a second in the middle of a busy moment

These small connections might not feel like much in the moment, but they add up in meaningful ways.

1. Connect with God in everyday routines (even in the bathroom)

My kids are now both in school all day, and I still struggle with finding alone time! That’s in part because my husband and I work from home together, but I know I’m not alone in this challenge. 

The most consistent alone time I have is when I’m in the shower and getting ready for the day. So, I’ve found showering is one of the best times for me to connect with God in everyday life. 

It sounds weird to talk about getting spiritual in the bathroom, but it works. Even before I had children, praying in the shower worked well for me because I had no distractions or interruptions. While performing a sort of mindless task, I realized I can focus on God more easily; I still continue to do that.

I usually spend about 10 minutes drying my hair on low with a diffuser (the joys of curly hair!). So, that’s when I read my devotion book and Bible then pray over requests on my prayer list I maintain in a free app on my phone.

I don’t shower every morning. If I do my hair turns to cotton candy! Plus, I also shower at night sometimes. 

On non-shower mornings, I start praying while I’m brushing my teeth. That may sound a bit silly, but it works for me to associate prayer times with part of my routine.

2. Connect with God in the car during busy days.

Another great time time to connect with God in everyday life is in the car. This is true especially if you get alone time in the car. 

I’m at a phase of motherhood where that happens more regularly now as I’m driving to pick up the kids from school and such. I have used this time to listen to Sarah Jakes Roberts’ sermons, but what I do mostly is listen to Christian music. 

Music is powerful and connects me with God more easily than anything else. Listening to Christian music helps me to focus on Him and reminds me of His presence. 

I maintain a Families with Grace playlist on Spotify that I usually listen to in the car (and while I work). Christian radio also works. And I continue the music with my kiddos in the car as well.

If you do happen to find yourself alone in the car, it can also be a great time to talk with God (eyes open, of course!). I’ve done that before, but more often I use car time for praise and worship music. 

3. Get up early (or stay up late) to have time with God.

When my kids were little and at home all the time, I’d get up early to have quiet time with God before the day started. This was past the earlier days I mentioned with a toddler, a baby and minimal sleep. Having 15 minutes to read my devotion book and Bible and pray got my day started off well. It was often my only quiet time in the day. 

If you aren’t a morning person, consider doing this at night before bedtime if you can. If your kids still take naps, use part of naptime to connect with God. 

Find something that works for you and your schedule, even if it isn’t every single day. Connecting with God isn’t an all or nothing activity. Small ways you connect with Him add up and help you grow spiritually.

4. Utilize resources to get into God’s Word.

I’ve been in church my entire life and have heard more times than I can count the importance of regularly getting into God’s Word. I agree completely, but what I don’t often hear is what that looks like and how to make that happen.

Honestly, if I pick up my Bible and just start reading at random, I don’t always get a lot out of it. My mind can start wandering even as I’m going through the words. I can struggle to connect what I’m reading to my own life.

For that reason, I most enjoy using a devotion book along with my Bible reading. I’ve used a variety of them through the years and do a different once each year. 

No matter what devotion book you pick, make sure it is focused on the Bible and encourages you to read from the Bible regularly. 

I enjoy having my devotion book on my Kindle and use the Kindle app on my phone along with the YouVersion Bible app to read. I love it’s all portable, so if I end up getting behind or not having a chance to read during my usual time, I can read anywhere I am when I am able to.

5. Have a verse of the day.

Reading your Bible and delving into God’s Word is important to help you connect with God and grow in your spiritual walk. You don’t have to follow a specific formula of Bible reading to grow on your spiritual journey.

In fact, I’ve found that sometimes picking one or two verses each day to focus on can help me go deeper in Bible study and focus more clearly. They all add up to increase my Biblical foundations and knowledge of the Word of God.

One of the most practical ways to focus on a verse of the day is using a simple Bible reading plan. Each month, I have a free Bible reading plan designed for moms available here on Families with Grace and in the Families with Grace store on Gumroad. 

The plans each have one to three verses per day with weekly reflection questions and a prayer journal page. We also discuss them in the free Christian Moms with Grace Facebook group. Join the membership group, The Grace Circle for Moms, to go even deeper with weekly videos and more.

Scripture cards are also a great way to focus on a verse a day. You can put them in an envelope or attach them with a ring binder clip and rotate through them to keep yourself encouraged and focused on God’s Word each day.

Enjoy Simple Moments with God

If you’re not sure where to start with this, having something simple to guide you can make a big difference. The free Simple Moments with God Bible study is a helpful tool for spiritual growth.

Just like the free Bible reading plans, this study series is designed with moms in mind so that you don’t have to have hours a day to spend in Bible study. 

It will meet you in everyday moments to help you develop a more intimate connection with God. With its own Bible reading plan, free devotional emails and more, join us for Simple Moments with God.

Recognizing when spiritual exhaustion has quietly taken over your faith

A couple of months ago, I was struggling. I didn’t want to read my Bible, praying felt like a chore and even listening to my beloved contemporary Christian music was falling flat. It was, quite simply, spiritual burnout.

I wasn’t angry at God or doubting Him. I was just weary, overwhelmed and tired. My spiritual life started feel like it was just adding to my endless to-do list and I couldn’t measure up.

While I think this is something most Christians experience at different times in life, it’s not a topic we are likely to talk about. And I think it’s really a big issue for us mamas. 

Our to-do lists never stop. The mental load of motherhood is taxing. Finding ways to keep all the balls in the air at the same time is just not possible.

Before I go further, I want to start with some reassurances that I need and you may, too:

• You haven’t lost your faith.
• Your spiritual journey isn’t derailed.
• God isn’t upset with you.
• Your Heavenly Father loves you and understands you.

(If this post resonates, you’re not alone. I created the Simple Faith without Pressure Bible study for moms who feel spiritually tired and overwhelmed. It’s completely free and designed to help you reconnect with God without adding more pressure to your plate.)

What faith burnout actually feels like

Faith burnout can be hard to recognize at first because it creeps in slowly. It’s not usually one dramatic moment. Instead, it’s the gradual shift from “I get to” to “I have to.”

I had been going along just fine with reading my Bible. I had a new women’s devotional Bible I was enjoying, in fact. But slowly, reading my Bible began to feel more like obligation than privilege. I dreaded it more than I looked forward to it.

My prayer time became more routine list of going through the motions rather than actually communicating with God. I even found myself wanting to avoid church activities that I usually loved. 

These are all signs of faith burnout. Other things can include saying yes to additional ministry commitments even though you’re already drowning because saying no feels like giving up on God altogether.

Or you might feel guilty more often than you feel loved by God. Maybe you compare your spiritual practices to someone else’s and always come up short. 

Perhaps rest feels impossible because there’s always something more you “should” be doing for God.

This is spiritual exhaustion, and it’s more common than we talk about. Especially for moms who are already pouring themselves out in a thousand different directions in their daily life.

When striving replaces grace

Here’s what often happens: we start our Christian life understanding grace. We accept that we’re saved by faith, not by our own effort. But then, somewhere along the way, we slip into trying to earn what we already have.

We begin measuring our spiritual health by how busy we are, how much we’re serving and how consistent our quiet time is. We put pressure on ourselves to do spiritual things like reading through the Bible in a year. 

Serving, having quiet time and reading through the Bible are healthy spiritual habits, but when we start putting pressure on ourselves and doing them right, we often get off track.

Galatians 3:3 asks a piercing question that gets right to the heart of this: “Are you so foolish? After beginning by means of the Spirit, are you now trying to finish by means of the flesh?”

We start with grace, but we end up in striving. We accept God’s love as a gift, but then we spend our days trying to prove we deserve it through our own actions.

And that’s exhausting. This state of exhaustion didn’t happen overnight, and it won’t resolve overnight either.

The pressure of performance-based faith

Social media hasn’t helped. We see beautiful Bible journaling spreads and perfectly organized prayer journals. Or we watch someone’s morning routine—complete with an hour of worship and homemade bread—and wonder what’s wrong with us for struggling to read one chapter while our toddler pours milk on the dog.

But comparison is always based on incomplete information. You’re comparing your full reality with someone else’s highlight reel. 

You’re measuring your messy kitchen and forgotten prayers against a carefully curated image that doesn’t tell the whole story.

The truth is, God isn’t asking you to be that other mom. He’s not comparing your faith to hers. He sees you in your unique season, with your specific circumstances and challenges, and He’s inviting you to be faithful right where you are in your own life.

Not perfect. Just faithful. And there’s a world of difference between the two.

What God is actually asking for

This is where Jesus’ words in John 6:28-29 become so important. The people asked Him, “What must we do to do the works God requires?” 

And Jesus answered, “The work of God is this: to believe in the One He has sent.”

Believe. That’s it. Not achieve, not perform, not prove yourself. Just believe.

Your Christian faith isn’t primarily about what you do for God. It’s about trusting what He’s already done for us. It’s relationship, not accomplishments.

When we make faith about performance, we turn it into something it was never meant to be. We create our own spiritual exhaustion by trying to earn love that’s already freely given. 

In the end, we do the wrong thing with good intentions by adding more spiritual disciplines when what we really need is rest in God’s grace.

Good things can still be exhausting

Here’s something that makes spiritual burnout especially tricky: we’re often exhausted by good things. Bible reading is good. Prayer is good. Serving at church is good. Small group participation is good.

But even good things, when piled on top of an already full life, can lead to emotional exhaustion and feelings of exhaustion that seep into our whole life.

The problem isn’t the spiritual practices themselves. The problem is when they become obligations we perform to prove ourselves rather than ways we connect with the God who loves us.

At the end of the day, it’s not about doing more good things. It’s about making sure the right thing has first place in our hearts: relationship with God, not religious performance.

The difference between rest and laziness

I know what you might be thinking: “But doesn’t God want me to grow? Doesn’t He call me to serve? Isn’t there more to faith than just believing?”

Yes. Growth is real. Service matters. But here’s the crucial difference: when we’re rooted in God’s grace, growth and service flow naturally from love, not from fear of not being enough.

We don’t serve to earn God’s approval. We serve because we’ve already received it.

We don’t read God’s Word to check a box. We read it because we want to know the God who loves us.

We don’t pray to prove we’re spiritual. We pray because we’re talking to Someone who actually cares about our day, our struggles and our hearts.

When faith comes from a place of rest rather than striving, it stops feeling heavy. Not because the circumstances change, but because we’re no longer carrying the weight of trying to make ourselves acceptable to God through our own efforts.

This is the good news: you don’t have to earn what you already have.

Rest doesn’t mean standing still

One thing I want to be really clear about: choosing rest and releasing pressure doesn’t mean we stop pursuing God altogether.

Faith isn’t passive. It’s living and growing. We do keep moving forward, but not through guilt, fear or sheer willpower. 

Rest isn’t the opposite of faithfulness. It’s often what allows faithfulness to last.

Sometimes burnout convinces us that the only options are pushing harder or giving up. But there’s a third way: continuing to seek God in smaller, more honest, more sustainable ways. 

A whispered prayer still matters. A single verse still feeds our souls. Showing up imperfectly still counts.

Grace doesn’t invite us to disengage from God. Instead it invites us to stay connected without the pressure to perform.

(If you’d like encouragement and honest conversation around this, you’re welcome to join my free Facebook group, Christian Moms with Grace. It’s a supportive space for moms to talk about faith, family and real life without judgment or pressure.)

Small shifts that make room for grace

If you’re feeling burned out in your spiritual life right now, you don’t need another five-step plan or a more rigorous routine. You need permission to let go of what’s crushing you.

That might look like stepping back from a ministry role that’s draining you dry. It might mean switching from that Bible reading plan that’s making you dread opening Scripture. It could be as simple as having a two-minute honest conversation with God while you’re folding laundry instead of beating yourself up for not having a perfect quiet time.

A few months ago, I was pushing through a difficult book in the Bible, dreading my daily readings. One morning, I felt the Holy Spirit whisper to me to go off plan and read the book of Luke instead. 

The relief I felt when I gave myself permission to do that was immediate. I’d been letting my idea of what Bible reading should look like get in the way of actually connecting with God.

Sometimes the most spiritual thing we can do is admit we’re tired and let God meet us in that honesty. There’s no shame in recognizing you need to adjust your spiritual journey to fit your current season.

Setting healthy boundaries isn’t unspiritual

One of the hardest lessons for many of us—especially when we feel responsible for everyone—is that saying no isn’t the same as lacking faith.

Jesus set boundaries. He withdrew from the crowds to pray. He didn’t heal every person or meet every need. He knew His mission and stayed focused on God’s way rather than everyone’s expectations.

Setting healthy boundaries in your spiritual life isn’t selfish. It’s sustainable. It’s recognizing that you’re not God, and that’s actually good news.

You can’t be at every church activity. You don’t have to lead every Bible study. You’re allowed to skip Sunday morning service occasionally when you’re sick or completely depleted. You can love God deeply without running yourself into the ground.

In fact, last fall, I chose to step back from making dinner for our church youth group once every couple of months because it was overwhelming in that particular season. It wasn’t permanent, and I’ve started serving in that way again. 

But I needed that break and boundary in that season, and it’s OK. God wasn’t made at me. The youth pastor understood. No kids went hungry. We all survived and now I feel more excited for having had a break.

It’s a relatively small thing, yet knowing I could say no when I felt overwhelmed brought me immense relief.

Creating space for rest isn’t giving up. It’s making room for the power of the Holy Spirit to actually work in your life instead of trying to manufacture spiritual fruit through sheer willpower.

The gift you’ve been trying to earn

Here’s the truth that changes everything: you already have what you’ve been exhausting yourself trying to achieve.

You’re already loved. Already accepted. Already enough—not because of what you do, but because of what Christ has done.

God isn’t standing over you with a clipboard, marking down every spiritual failure. He’s not comparing you to other Christians. He sees you through the lens of Jesus’ finished work, and He sees you as beloved.

Faith without pressure means recognizing this truth and letting it sink deep into your heart. It means asking “What is God inviting me into today?” instead of “What do I have to do to be acceptable?”

That shift changes everything. It transforms your spiritual life from a burden into the gift it was always meant to be.

Permission to rest

If you’re burned out right now, please hear this: God is not disappointed in you. He sees your weariness, and He’s inviting you to rest.

Not to do more. To rest.

You’re allowed to have seasons where you can’t do it all. You’re allowed to step back. You’re allowed to admit you’re tired. You’re allowed to let some things go.

God isn’t asking you to run yourself into the ground for Him. He’s asking you to abide in Him, to stay connected, to let His life flow through you instead of trying to manufacture spiritual fruit through sheer willpower.

Sometimes the most faithful thing you can do is take a nap, order pizza for dinner and spend the evening just being present with your family instead of rushing off to another church event. Sometimes the best thing for your soul is simply spending much time in God’s presence without any agenda.

God isn’t asking for your exhaustion. He’s offering His rest.

What matters most

At the end of the day, faith isn’t measured by how much you do or how perfect your spiritual practices look. It’s measured by trust. By showing up honestly. By believing that God loves you even on the days when you don’t feel very spiritual.

Your simple, imperfect, sometimes-struggling faith is enough. Because faith was never about you being enough. It’s about trusting that Jesus is.

The only way forward when you’re burned out isn’t to try harder. It’s to receive grace more fully. It’s to let God carry what you were never meant to carry alone.

So take a deep breath, mama. Let go of the pressure. God meets you right where you are—tired, imperfect, doing your best. And that’s exactly where His grace does its most beautiful work.

(For moms who want deeper support and guided faith rhythms, I also host a small paid Facebook group, The Grace Circle for Moms, that walks through this study together with added encouragement and resources. It’s there for those who want a little more structure and community in this season.)

Find more faith encouragement in these posts:

Faith without pressure: Why grace matters more than works

Loving others without burnout: A guide for busy moms

Encouragement for when you feel like you’re failing God

Lessons from mothers in the Bible

Letting go of hustle, comparison and burnout so your faith can feel life-giving again

A couple of months ago, I was struggling and having a hard time with overwhelm and burnout that made their way into my spiritual walk as well. I was going through a Bible reading plan and dreading the daily readings. I was stuck in a book of woe, and it was just hard to read.

Then one morning, I took a deep breath and realized that isn’t what God intended. Following a Bible reading plan and reading through the Bible in a year was a great goal, but it wasn’t the only way to connect with God.

I felt the Holy Spirit whisper to me to go off plan and read the book of Luke. I switched up my reading, and felt such a great relief. My preconceived idea of what Bible reading should look like in that season was getting in the way of my relationship with my Heavenly Father.

I worried I was disappointing God when all along, He just longed to bless and encourage me.

Maybe you’ve been there, too, and had a sinking feeling that your Christian faith has become just another task on your endless to-do list. Another area where you’re not measuring up. Another source of pressure in a life that already feels like too much.

But what if I told you that’s not what faith was ever meant to be?

What does faith without pressure actually mean?

Faith without pressure means living out your Christian faith from a place of grace and trust, not performance, comparison or constant striving.

Faith without pressure isn’t about lowering standards or caring less about your relationship with God. It’s about understanding what true faith actually looks like according to Scripture—not according to Instagram, not according to the mom at church who seems to have it all together and not according to the voice in your head that says you’re never doing enough.

In Matthew 11:28-30, Jesus says something that should change everything: “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”

Read that again. Easy. Light. Rest. That’s God’s plan for our spiritual lives.

The truth is, God never intended for your relationship with Him to feel like a performance review. Faith without pressure means recognizing that you’re already loved, already accepted, already enough not because of what you do, but because of what Christ has done.

When faith starts to feel like hustle

Here’s what pressure-based faith looks like in real life:

You wake up feeling guilty because you didn’t get up early enough for a “proper” quiet time. You compare your prayer life to someone else’s and feel like you’re failing. You say yes to another church commitment even though you’re already drowning. You read Christian books about doing more, being more, achieving more for God.

You measure your spiritual health by how busy you are in ministry. You feel anxious when you rest because you “should” be doing something productive. You secretly wonder if God is disappointed in you. You’re exhausted, but you keep pushing because stopping feels like giving up on faith altogether.

Sound familiar?

This hustle mentality has infiltrated Christian culture so deeply that many of us can’t tell the difference between genuine faithfulness and religious performance anymore. We’ve confused being busy for God with actually knowing God. We’ve mistaken activity for intimacy.

But the pressure of life, including self-imposed spiritual pressure, wasn’t meant to define our walk with Christ. In fact, it often gets in the way.

Galatians 3:3 asks a piercing question: “Are you so foolish? After beginning by means of the Spirit, are you now trying to finish by means of the flesh?”

We start with grace, but then we slip into striving. We begin in freedom, but end up in bondage to our own expectations.

The comparison trap that steals our peace

Social media has made comparison a constant temptation. You see another mom’s beautiful Bible journaling spread and feel inadequate about your scribbled notes.

You watch someone’s morning routine video—complete with an hour of worship, prayer and Scripture memory while being dressed just so and making bread from scratch—and wonder what’s wrong with you for struggling to read one chapter while your toddler dumps cereal on the floor.

But here’s the thing about comparison: it’s always based on incomplete information. You’re comparing your full reality of the messy kitchen, the forgotten prayers, the days when faith feels hard with someone else’s highlight reel.

Great faith isn’t measured by how much you do or how perfect your spiritual practices look. In Luke 18:9-14, Jesus told a parable about two men praying. The Pharisee stood and prayed about himself, listing all his spiritual accomplishments. The tax collector simply beat his breast and said, “God, have mercy on me, a sinner.” Jesus said it was the tax collector who went home justified before God.

The one who came with nothing but honest need. The one who wasn’t performing. The one who simply trusted in God’s mercy.

That’s what God is looking for: trust. Not performance.

Comparison also distorts our understanding of what God is actually asking of us. Your calling, your season and your circumstances are uniquely yours.

God isn’t asking you to be that other mom. He’s inviting you to be faithful right where you are, with what you have, in this moment.

We are all different with different personalities, skillsets and passions. Outside pressure to be like someone else just doesn’t fit.

Understanding true faith vs. works-based faith

This is where things get really important. We need to talk about the difference between true faith and faith that’s actually just works dressed up in spiritual language.

Ephesians 2:8-9 makes it crystal clear: “For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith—and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God—not by works, so that no one can boast.”

We can’t earn our way into God’s love. We can’t pray enough, serve enough or be good enough to make God love us more. He already loves us completely. That’s grace.

But many of us still operate as if we have to prove ourselves. We’ve intellectually accepted grace, but we’re emotionally still stuck in a works-based mindset. We think if we just do more good works, we’ll finally feel secure in God’s love. If we just try harder, we’ll finally feel like we’re good Christians.

That’s exhausting. And it’s not what God’s word teaches.

True faith is trusting God even when we don’t understand. It’s believing His promises when circumstances look impossible. It’s resting in His grace instead of striving for His approval. It’s showing up honestly with our doubts, our struggles and our real selves instead of pretending to have it all together.

Romans 5:1-2 reminds us that “since we have been justified through faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have gained access by faith into this grace in which we now stand.”

Peace. Access. Grace in which we stand, not grace we’re scrambling to reach.

How grace replaces the pressure to perform

Grace is the game-changer. It’s what transforms Christian faith from a burden into a gift.

When you truly grasp grace, you realize God isn’t standing over you with a clipboard, marking down every spiritual failure. He’s not disappointed when you’re too tired for daily prayer.

He’s not comparing you to other Christians. He sees you through the lens of Christ’s finished work on the cross, and He sees you as beloved.

This is where the Holy Spirit becomes so important. The Holy Spirit isn’t some divine taskmaster pushing you to do more.

The Spirit is God’s presence with you, empowering you, comforting you and guiding you through love, not guilt.

When you live in grace, you stop asking, “What do I have to do to be acceptable to God?” and start asking, “What is God inviting me into today?” That shift changes everything.

Grace doesn’t make us lazy. Actually, the opposite happens. When we stop exhausting ourselves trying to earn love we already have, we discover the energy and freedom to love others genuinely.

We serve from overflow instead of obligation. We find deeper trust developing naturally as we spend time with God because we want to, not because we have to.

Titus 3:4-5 beautifully captures this: “But when the kindness and love of God our Savior appeared, he saved us, not because of righteous things we had done, but because of his mercy.”

Not because of what we did. Because of His mercy.

Recognizing and healing from faith burnout

Faith burnout is real, and it’s more common than you might think. It happens when the pressures of life combine with unrealistic spiritual expectations to create a perfect storm of exhaustion.

You might be experiencing faith burnout if:

• Reading your Bible feels like a chore instead of a delight
• Prayer feels obligatory rather than conversational
• You feel guilty more often than you feel loved by God
• Church attendance drains you instead of refueling you
• You’re going through the motions but feeling spiritually numb
• You secretly wonder if you’re cut out for this faith thing at all

If that’s you, please hear this: God is not disappointed in you. He sees your weariness, and He’s inviting you to rest.

In Mark 6:31, Jesus told His disciples, “Come with me by yourselves to a quiet place and get some rest.”

This was after they’d been busy serving and ministering. Jesus didn’t say, “Push through! Do more!” He invited them to rest.

You’re allowed to rest. You’re allowed to have seasons where you can’t do it all. You’re allowed to step back from commitments. You’re allowed to admit you’re tired.

God isn’t asking you to run yourself into the ground for Him. He’s asking you to abide in Him (John 15:4). Abiding isn’t hustle; it’s presence and staying connected. It’s letting His life flow through you instead of trying to manufacture spiritual fruit through sheer willpower.

Hebrews 4:9-10 offers this beautiful promise: “There remains, then, a Sabbath-rest for the people of God; for anyone who enters God’s rest also rests from their works, just as God did from his.”

God invites us to rest from our works. Not to prove ourselves through them.

Burnout often shows up most clearly when life is already hard, which is why pressure-based faith becomes especially damaging in difficult seasons.

Faith during hard times doesn’t mean faking strength

When life gets difficult, pressure-based faith tells you to put on a brave face, have all the answers and demonstrate unshakeable confidence. But that’s not what faith during hard times actually looks like in Scripture.

Look at the Psalms. David was brutally honest with God. He complained. He questioned. He expressed fear and doubt and anger. And God called David a man after His own heart.

Real faith doesn’t mean pretending everything’s fine. It means bringing your real self to a real God who can handle your real emotions.

Faith during hard times means showing up even when you don’t feel strong. It means crying out to God even when you’re not sure He’s listening and admitting you need help. It means clinging to what you know about God’s character even when your circumstances are screaming the opposite.

This kind of honest, pressure-free faith actually creates space for God to work. When we stop trying to be superhuman, we make room for God to be God.

Isaiah 30:15 says it perfectly: “In repentance and rest is your salvation, in quietness and trust is your strength.”

Not in doing more. In rest. In quietness. In trust.

What a simple, grace-filled faith actually looks like

So what does faith without pressure look like practically? What changes when we let go of the hustle and embrace grace?

It might look like having a two-minute conversation with God while you’re folding laundry instead of beating yourself up for not having an hour-long quiet time.

It might mean reading one verse and sitting with it all day instead of rushing through three chapters to check a box.

It could be praying honest, messy prayers—”God, I’m so tired. I don’t even know what to say. Help”—instead of trying to pray “properly.”

A transformed life doesn’t happen through pressure and striving. It happens through consistent, grace-filled connection with God over time. Small steps. Daily choices. Honest conversations.

When we approach faith this way, something beautiful happens. We start to actually enjoy God’s Word instead of feeling obligated to read it.

Prayer becomes a lifeline instead of a duty. We develop deeper trust naturally as we see God show up faithfully in small ways.

And slowly, without us even noticing at first, we’re transformed. Not because we followed the perfect formula, but because we spent time with the One who transforms.

The freedom of seeking first

Matthew 6:31-33 addresses our tendency to worry and strive: “So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’… But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.”

Seek first. Not seek perfectly. Not seek constantly while ignoring everything else. Just seek first, make Him the priority and trust Him with the rest.

This is where so much pressure melts away. When we’re focused on striving for God’s approval, we carry the weight of our performance. But when we simply seek His kingdom first, trusting that He’ll provide what we need, we find freedom.

God isn’t asking for perfection. He’s asking for priority. And there’s a world of difference between the two.

Practical steps toward pressure-free faith

Here are some gentle, practical ways to start releasing pressure and embracing grace:

Start small. Instead of committing to an hour of prayer, start with five minutes. Instead of a detailed Bible study plan, read one passage slowly or use a simple Bible reading plan with just a verse or two per day. Small, consistent steps build sustainable rhythms.

Be honest with God. Stop trying to pray impressive prayers. Tell Him how you really feel. He already knows anyway.

Redefine faithfulness. Faithfulness isn’t about perfection. It’s about showing up, even imperfectly. It’s about returning to God again and again, not about never struggling.

Question the “shoulds.” When you hear yourself thinking “I should be doing more,” stop and ask: Is this actually from God, or is this comparison, culture or condemnation talking?

Give yourself grace. Extend to yourself the same grace God extends to you. You’re not a project to be fixed. You’re a beloved child learning and growing.

Focus on relationship, not rules. God wants your heart, not your religious performance. Time with Him is about connection, not just checking boxes.

James 1:5 offers this encouragement: “If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.”

Without finding fault. God doesn’t condemn you for needing help. He gives generously.

An invitation to rest in faith together

If you’ve been living under the weight of pressure-based faith, I want you to know: there’s a better way. A way that honors God without crushing you. A way that leads to genuine transformation without the burnout.

Faith without pressure isn’t about lowering the bar. It’s about understanding what God was actually asking for all along. Not perfection. Not performance. Just you. Your real, honest, imperfect, beautiful self, trusting in His grace.

If you’re tired of the hustle and ready to experience Christian faith the way it was meant to be—rooted in grace, marked by rest and full of genuine joy—I’d love to invite you to join a Bible study we’re doing on this very topic.

This isn’t another thing to add to your plate. It’s not about homework or obligation. It’s a space where we can explore together what it means to live in grace, to trust God more deeply and to let go of the pressures that have been weighing us down.

We’ll dig into Scripture together, share our real stories and discover practical ways to embrace faith without pressure in our everyday lives.

No performance required. No comparison allowed. Just honest women learning to rest in God’s love together.

Because here’s what I’ve learned: faith without pressure isn’t just possible, it’s what God has been offering all along. We just needed permission to receive it.

And sweet mama, consider this your permission.

God isn’t waiting for you to get it all together. He’s inviting you to come as you are—tired, imperfect, struggling—and find rest in Him. That’s where the transformed life begins. Not in the striving, but in the surrender. Not in the pressure, but in the peace.

Will you join us?

Read more from the series:

Faith burnout: When your relationship with God feels heavy

The Advancing Native Missions Gift Catalog is a perfect gift to share Jesus this Christmas season

Christmas is such a lovely holiday season to celebrate the birth of Jesus and spend time with family. It’s also the perfect time to find ways to give back, and Christmas donation gifts are a great way to do just that.

As Christian moms, we do our best to keep Christ in Christmas and not get too distracted by the gift-giving and activities of the season. But, if we’re honest, that can be downright hard. 

Add in the challenge of finding gifts for the one person who just has everything, and the festive season can pretty quickly devolve into stress.

That’s where Christmas donation gifts can make a big difference. These thoughtful charity gifts can not only help you with your Christmas shopping but also change the lives of vulnerable people around the world.

And, if you’re like me, you might be thinking how great that sounds but it also sounds like more stress of shopping for yet more people and finding extra budget money to do so. That’s why the Advancing Native Missions Gift Catalog is such a great option.

For us moms trying to raise kids who see Jesus in action, these kinds of gifts open the door to conversations we’re already trying to have.

In exchange for this post and review, I received a copy of The Advancing Native Missions Gift Catalog and small compensation. All the opinions about these Christmas donation gifts are completely my own.

About Advancing Native Missions

ANM is committed to taking the message of Jesus to people around the world. In order to make a real difference in the 100+ areas they serve and have a lasting impact, ANM works with local — or native — missionaries rather than sending missionaries from the United States.

Because these local families know the language and the people so personally, they are often able to have a bigger impact for Jesus. Removing language, cultural and living standard differences helps eliminate barriers that take time to get past for newcomers to the area.

Native missionaries also need less monetary support; they don’t need language training, passports and travel expenses. As a result, even the smallest donation to ANM goes a long way to support such a good cause. 

The evangelical organization has planted more than 61,000 churches globally. ANM is also transparent with its spending: 80.79% of donations have a direct impact on the mission field while 13.5% goes to administrative expenses and 5.71% goes to fundraising costs.

Christmas donation gifts for ANM

While monetary donations are part of fundraising for ANM, another neat component is its gift catalog. Full of items that will help underserved people have a brighter future and learn about Jesus, the ANM gift catalog is great for Christmas donation gifts.

In fact, if you purchase something from the gift catalog in someone’s name, the organization will send a card to that person telling them of the gift donations made on their behalf.

With different price ranges of gifts available, the ANM catalog gives lots of options for supporting its missionaries.

Faith-based gifts

For only $20, you can purchase a Bible to get into the hands of a pastor or new believer to have a lasting impact on their faith journey. 

Other nice gifts to have a positive impact on this ministry include supporting a missionary and training a missionary. Such gifts help cover a missionary’s living costs and faith training. 

Additionally, you can support pastors and their families in other ways like purchasing new shoes for pastors, clothes for their wives, support for their children and medical supplies. Many pastors in the areas served have needs similar to the people they are serving and need help with food and basic supplies.

Another challenge many native missionaries encounter is transportation. They want to be able to spread the love of Jesus but struggle to get to other places. 

ANM has options to donate for a bicycle, fuel, motorbike and boats to help missionaries get to more remote areas. A transportation gift has a ripple effect on the people reached.

And, of course, you can also donate to church planting and building. There are specific opportunities for planting churches in Japan, Bulgaria, South Asia and North Korea.

Animal gifts

Thinking of farm animals as gifts is maybe a bit foreign to many of us, but these animals can make a huge impact on the lives of families. You can give a chicken, fish, pig or goat Christmas gift to help a family with its own needs as well as be able to earn an income.

Chickens, for example, are $3 each. A single hen can lay up to 250 eggs in a year, which greatly helps a family in need. Flocks of 5, 10 or 30 chickens are a blessing for families, churches and schools.

If you’re thinking of a more fishy Christmas present, you can buy 100 fish and their food for a ministry farm that supports both missionaries and needing people in the community for only $7. 

​Goats, which are $40, give families a chance to earn income by selling their products. And pigs, for $50, are a very easy farm animal to care for and can provide both income and food for a family.

You can feel good knowing animal gifts keep giving all year long to the families they go to.

Gifts for children

And we must talk about children. Images of young children doing without even basic material possessions are heart-wrenching. 

The ANM gift catalog lets you donate shoes for children for $12, sports equipment for $20 and school supplies for $30. 

There’s also an option to provide Christmas presents for children in Serbia and Bulgaria in particular for $35.

Providing lots of love and support to the youngest community members can draw adults to the love of Jesus as well.

Giving for a crisis

Unfortunately, crises don’t pause for Christmas. Starting at just $10 for a blanket, you can donate to help with specific needs for the communities in crisis that ANM serves. Only $30 provides life-saving medicine and $65 provides emergency food for food banks to serve those in distress.

ANM also has a fund for donations to provide a safe haven for persecuted Christians in the Middle East.

Self-sustaining Christmas gifts

Another terrific option for Christmas donation gifts is to provide folks with a steady stream of income. Lots of folks in these mission areas want to be self-sufficient but lack the supplies needed to do so.

For $120, you can provide a sewing machine to women in developing countries who have few options for work. 

Other options in the ANM catalog include donating to a flower business in Cambodia, a coffee shop in Tunisia and a restaurant and bakery in Thailand.

These donations can make lasting changes by providing a steady income for families in need while also showing them the love of Jesus in action.

Community gifts

And then some gifts offer a chance to support good health and social structures. Oftentimes, the areas in which ANM operates need basic infrastructure.

Donations toward tin roofs, community toilets, wells and church construction can help offset the daunting task of providing a safe community for village members.

Why Christmas donations gifts are ideal

Whether you’re looking for a single gift for a hard-to-shop-for loved one or simply want to do something to make a difference, Christian donation gifts really are a great option. 

ANM offers affordable options to make a big difference globally. From a Christmas goat to a pair of shoes for a pastor, these are Christmas gifts that really will keep on giving.

As Christian moms, we love when we can make generosity tangible for our kids. Going through the catalog together lets them actually see what we’re giving and who it helps. It becomes a shared moment instead of a quick online donation we do by ourselves.

Even better, all of the gifts point to the most powerful Christmas gift of all: Jesus.

You can find more information about ANM on its web page along with the gift catalog to start your own Christmas donation gift shopping today.

Looking for more Christmas gift ideas? Don’t miss this ultimate Christmas gift guide!

7 Simple & effective ways to keep your family focused on Jesus

From the beginning of our parenthood journey, my husband and I have worked to share our faith with our children. And Christmas is an important season for Christianity.

We want our children to enjoy the fun of Christmas, but we also want them to understand what and Who we are ultimately celebrating.

Throughout the past 13 years, we’ve come up with a few ways to keep Christ in Christmas that are both simple and effective.

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1. Read a Christmas devotion book together throughout December.

When my daughter was a preschooler, our church passed out free family devotions for Advent. It wasn’t something we had done as a family before, but we decided to give it a try. On the first night we did so, our daughter cheered.

Family Christmas devotion time during December has worked its way into our routine. When we had some trouble finding devotion books that we really enjoyed, were age appropriate and didn’t take a super long time, I decided to put together my own.

I now have three versions of “A Family Christmas: 25 Days of 5-Minute Family Christmas Devotions.” Volume one is for younger children (preschool through early elementary), and volume two is geared toward tweens and teens.

The most recent, “A Family Christmas Devotional,” combines the best of both into one with questions for littles and teens as well as adds in reflection questions for parents.

Reading through the Christmas devotion book together takes us through the Christmas story and gets us talking about how it can apply to our lives today. Just a few minutes each evening makes a big difference to help our family keep Christ in Christmas.

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2. Include Jesus in secular traditions.

Our family believes in Santa Claus and uses a visiting Elf in a positive way. But we also incorporate Jesus into those traditions. For example, Santa Claus leaves a letter for the children each year to find on Christmas morning.

And he always mentions the importance of remembering the real meaning of Christmas. The Elf also reminds them in different ways to keep Jesus the focus of Christmas as well.

Both Santa and the Elf compliment our kids for kind things they do and how they keep Christ in Christmas. It’s a simple way to help tie the more secular traditions with our faith.

3. Read the Christmas story together.

When our kids were little, we found the best way to read the Christmas story together was one verse or so at a time. In fact, you can find a free printable version of Bible verses for Dec. 1 through 25 in this post. We would usually print the verses, cut them apart and then number and attach a verse to each of the Christmas books we wrap for our kids to open throughout December.

One of the bonuses of doing one verse at a time is that each evening, we would ask the kids what happened previously in the Christmas story. That helps ingrain the story firmly in their minds. In fact, even now with using the devotion book, we still do this since its verses lead us through the Christmas story as well.

4. Talk about the true meaning of Christmas.

You don’t have to give your children sermons or lectures about the true meaning of Christmas. But mention it in small ways when it comes up.

For example, we have watched Christmas movies or shows as a family when the characters reference the real meaning of Christmas being time with family or something. We will ask our children what the actual true meaning of Christmas is. Or we mention the other stuff is great, but Jesus’ birth is the true meaning.

Our children are exposed to secular culture in a variety of ways. I like finding ways to help them learn how to navigate the world around them within their faith view. And this is something that works well at Christmastime.

5. Set up a nativity scene.

Whether you use a toy nativity scene or a decorative one, a nativity scene at Christmas helps your family keep Christ in Christmas. We’ve never had a toy one. Instead, I have the one my family had when I was a child as well as one from my maternal grandmother. We set up one downstairs and one upstairs.

My kids love setting up the nativity scenes. We’ve had many years of having a nativity scene that doesn’t look like I necessarily envision, but I don’t mind.

What I have really enjoyed is hearing the kids as they were younger playing with the nativity scene as they moved it around. Learning about Jesus’ birth definitely doesn’t have to be all serious!

6. Listen to Christian Christmas music.

Music is a big part of my life and my worship. So listening to Christian Christmas music just fits right in. But, I will be honest in saying that I don’t usually enjoy the Christmas music played on contemporary Christian stations. It tends to all be slow and emotional. So, I have my own playlists. And some secular artists have their own renditions of Christmas carols talking about the birth of Jesus.

Our family doesn’t listen to only Christian Christmas music, but it definitely is part of our December. I always kick off the Christmas music season with my favorite Christmas album by 4Him, “A Season of Love,” that was released way back in 1997.

7. Read faith-centered Christmas books.

One of our family’s Christmas traditions is opening a Christmas book each evening Dec. 1 through 24. We have a wide array of books from traditional secular Christmas stories to silly ones to faith-based ones.

We enjoy “The Animals’ Christmas Eve,” which tells the story of Jesus’ birth from the animals in the manger. Another great one is “God Gave Us Christmas” from Lisa Tawn Bergren. (I love the entire “God Gave Us” series from her!)